How Well Do You Know Your Husband? 50 Questions to Ask

The dating phase of life is all about asking questions and getting to know each other. After all, you want to know everything you can about the person you’re going to spend the rest of your life with, right? We wrote down the top 50 questions to ask your spouse, your other half, husband, or wife.

The beautiful thing about relationships is that there’s always something you can learn about each other – whether it’s something deep or surface level. Just the other day I was reminiscing about the Hannah Montana/Meet Miley Cyrus concert, and my husband of seven years had no idea I went to it as a kid! 

Whether you’re newly married or have celebrated 20 years together, it’s always fun to learn new things about each other and ask questions to connect on a deeper level. Plus, it’s the best thing you can do to keep your relationship fresh. At the end of the day, knowing your partner’s emotional needs, spiritual thoughts, and fun facts brings you together on a deeper, more intimate level. If you’re looking for things to not fight over check out our article arguments totally not worth fighting over.

These questions are great conversation starters and can help you and your spouse grow closer together. If you are going through a hard time or you simply want to ask these kinds of questions but you’re not sure how to bring them up, this list can help guide you. It’s the perfect way to get the conversation going whether it’s a routine date night or a special occasion.

So how well do you know your spouse or husband? Here are 50 fun questions you can ask on your next date night, while doing dishes together, or on future road trips to see just how well you know each other. 

Category 1: Childhood & Teen Years 

We’ll start off with some easy questions about childhood and teen years. These are great questions you can ask each other to learn more, but also to laugh together and talk about the good old days! Whether you and your spouse knew each other growing up, these questions can spark fun conversations and bring back fond memories. 

1. What was your favorite class in school? 
2. Who was your first crush? First date? First kiss?
3. How would you describe your high school self in three words? 
4. If you had to go back and repeat high school, middle school, or elementary school, what would you choose and why? 
5. Who was your childhood best friend? 
6. What was your favorite thing to do as a child? 
7. Who was your favorite teacher? 
8. What was your favorite song growing up?
9. What was your first job as a teenager? Which was your favorite? 
10. What was the best gift you ever received? 

Category 2: Favorite (And Least Favorite) Things 

Knowing your partner on a deeper level means knowing their favorite and least favorite things. These are more rapid-fire questions and they’re super simple – all you have to do is say the subject, then you and your partner say your favorite and least favorite. 

For example, if the subject is “type of food,” you’ll say your favorite and least favorite type of food. It might even spark a friendly debate! Ready, set, go! 

11. Favorite type of food 
12. Favorite ice cream flavor 
13. Favorite movie 
14. Favorite TV show 
15. Favorite beverage 
16. Favorite vacation you’ve been on 
17. Favorite color 
18. Favorite subject in school
19. Favorite type of music
20. Favorite book you’ve read recently 

Category 3: Goals, Dreams, & Aspirations

As a married couple, you likely love to dream about the future and talk about what your lives will look like in the upcoming years. It’s fun to talk about the future and what’s in store for you and your spouse, and speaking these things out loud can help manifest them into a reality. Here are 10 questions you can discuss with your spouse surrounding your dreams, goals, and life aspirations. 

21. Where do you see our lives in 10 years? 
22. If you could choose any career and guarantee success, what would it be? 
23. What’s something you’ve always wanted to do but haven’t yet? 
24. If you could take any year-long vacation with zero cost, where would you go and why?
25. Do you want kids? If so, how many? 
26. Would you rather live in a beachfront house or a mansion in the mountains? 
27. If you had to choose between farm life and city life, which would you choose? 
28. What is your biggest dream you hope to accomplish by the end of your life? 
29. Would you ever go back to college and get a different degree? 
30. If you could go to any concert and sporting event, what would it be and why?  

Category 3: Spirituality & Beliefs 

Let’s get a little deeper with your spirituality and beliefs! If you’re married, you most likely have a good idea of your spouse’s religious and spiritual beliefs. However, you might not know where they stand on some of these topics. These are more serious questions, but this can be a fun way to discuss deeper topics.

These important questions can spark deep and meaningful conversations that will bring you and your spouse closer together on a spiritual level. 

31. What is your zodiac sign? 
32. What are your thoughts about astrology? 
33. Do you think humans are naturally good or evil? 
34. Is everything a coincidence or is everything predetermined? 
35. Do you think spirituality has a time or place, or should it be intertwined in our everyday lives? 
36. Do you know your purpose in life? If so, what is it? 
37. Do you believe in an afterlife? If so, what do you think it’s like? 
38. Do you believe in ghosts? Have you seen any?  
39. What is your idea of pure happiness? 
40. If you could change one thing about the world, what would it be and why? 

Category 5: Your Relationship 

There’s nothing better than checking in with your spouse to see where you’re at with your relationship. If you’ve been feeling distant from each other lately or you simply want to reconnect, asking each other questions about your relationship can strengthen it. Here’s another resource if you’re looking to better your relationship and have little to no fighting.

41. What do I do that makes you feel the most loved? Take the Love Languages test to go deeper with this!
42. What do I do that makes you feel unloved? 
43. What is your favorite date night we’ve done recently? 
44. How can I better serve and support you?
45. What is your idea of quality time?
46. What was your favorite part of our wedding day? 
47. When did you know we were meant to be together? 
48. If we had a week to spend together with no distractions, what would we do? 
49. What can we do today to improve our relationship?
50. Where do you see our relationship in 5 years? 

These are the 50 questions we recommend asking to get to know your spouse or husband better, but they will likely spark even more questions and conversations as you start discussing. Save this list of questions for your next date night activity!