A new year is here and so is the time for self-evaluation, bright new aspirations, and shiny new resolutions.
Two weeks ago, I took a vow here to shut down any derogatory jabs at body image, aka “fat talk.” It was an eye-opening experience, and one I’d like to carry over into this exciting new year. Fat talk happens every time you look in the mirror, scrunch your nose, squint your eyes, and think, “Yuck!” Fat talk is talking yourself out of those killer skinny jeans because, “I look too fat in those.”
As women, we tend to be our own worse critics. The dialogues we have in our heads can be so venomous. We would never say those things to others, so why do we say them to ourselves?
Special K is heading up the campaign to Fight Fat Talk. Weight management is on a lot of our resolution lists, and when it comes to success, a positive attitude matters. I love this short video staged in a clothing store. The tags on each item of clothing contain a shocking message that every woman should see.
For the last two weeks, I’ve had the issue of fat talk on my brain. I read a very moving article here that struck me to the core as a mother. Our children, especially our girls see us as goddesses who can move their mountains and make everything better. They want to be just like us.
I see it in my four-year-old daughter every time I get ready for the day. She carefully watches, eyes wide open to even the most minute details, to see what I do. From the flowing blouse I finally settle on, to the dangly earrings I choose, she is taking vivid notes. She notes how I apply my foundation, eye shadow and mascara. Later, I’ll peek into her room and she is humming Twinkle, twinkle little star, and carefully dabbing princess makeup to her eyes, cheeks, and lips.
What if she had heard my inner voice, as I tried on blouse after blouse, slandering my stomach and those stretch marks that brought her to me?
Heaven forbid if she’d heard me hating the arms that wrap around her when she falls, or the legs that chase her in a game of tag.
My experiment taught me that fat talk is ugly and useless. It does nothing except bring in a negative fog that prevents you from seeing the big picture: that life is good and that our little and big girls love us. They need us to love us.
We are all on a different journey when it comes to weight management. Let’s be encouraging and helpful to ourselves and others on that journey, especially if weight loss is one of your resolutions this new year. Let’s shut down the fat talk and turn our inner voices into our biggest champions instead of our biggest critics.
*A special thanks to Special K for sponsoring this post.