*This post is an invitation by mormon.org to learn more about their new Easter initiative, #PrinceofPeace.
Nathan Ogden knows what it feels like to fly. The first time was in 2001 when at 26-years-old, he soared off a ski jump, left ground behind and touched tips of trees. The air was brisk but Nate felt anything but frozen. With a beautiful wife and two young children, life was vibrant and he was invincible. Nate landed on his neck that day, shattering vertebrae and crushing his spinal chord. The life he’d imagined changed in an instant.
At first, Nathan thought he’d knocked the wind out of himself. But when he reached up to adjust his goggles, his arms would not move. Despite having a bed of snow and ice, fire consumed Nate’s body. My legs. Why aren’t they moving? Later that day, with his wife Heather, 2-year-old daughter Seniya, and 11-month-old son Kyler at his bedside, doctors told Nathan he was paralyzed.
{Seniya, now 17 and Kyler, now 16 lifting dad}
Life Rarely Works out How We Plan
Sixteen years later, Nathan stills feels the wind on his face as he’s skiied down a mountain (he’s the epitome of “get back on the horse”). He’s propelled his hand-powered bicycle in a race and even skydived from an airplane. No, a miracle did not happen. Nathan’s legs still don’t work and actually, things got much worse before they got better. You can read about how his neck was broken twice—it is an incredible story of perserverance and hope. But Nathan, although paralyzed from the chest down, is still anything but frozen.
Every single day, each one of us takes for granted the ability to bend over and pick up something we’ve dropped. We begrudge menial tasks like mowing the lawn and vacuuming the floor. We complain when our muscles are sore or the reflection in the mirror doesn’t look more like so-and-so’s.
Life rarely works out how we plan. There are disappointments, heartbreaks, and things that are downright hard. We have children that cause us excruciating worry and health ailments that come up without warning. There are insurmountable bills to pay and suffering in our personal lives that we keep hidden behind closed doors.
If Nathan Ogden can find hope in a life he never pictured, we can too.
Do you believe in inspiration?
In sharing Mormon.org’s beautiful new Easter initiative #PrinceofPeace, I wanted to write about faith, hope, and someone who uses those principles to draw closer to Jesus Christ. I racked my brain for days on who to write about. I racked and racked and even banged my head up against my softly padded headboard (I’m not that hardcore) but nothing came out. Then one night before bed, I prayed that I could know who to write about.
The answer came at 2:00 am in the quiet and still of my bedroom.
The house was silent, my four kids were all miraculously sleeping soundly and my husband for once was not snoring. I have no idea what woke me up. All I know is that a name came to my mind. You need to write about Nathan Ogden.
What? I asked. I don’t even know him. I follow Nathan on Facebook and love his posts. They are full of light, hope and genuine human emotions that make me feel. And because I believe in divine, personal inspiration, I shrugged off the voice telling me I was crazy and gave Nate a call.
I told him about my hair-brained idea to place him and his family on a very public stage and surprisingly Nathan said, “Let’s do it!”
The next Sunday, Nathan, Heather, and their four children welcomed me into their home, along with our photographer Cristi and her three energetic boys. As Cristi’s boys rolled on the Ogden family carpet like human lint rollers, we all had a very personal conversation and an experience so sweet, I haven’t been able to shake since.
I think there is a reason we need to know Nathan.
Faith, Hope, and Peace in Paralysis
Faith is the act of believing in something you cannot see. Hope is the feeling that good things will happen.
After the first neck break, and with painful and intense daily physical therapy, Nathan regained the use of his shoulders, arms, most of his hands, and a little movement in his legs. He had a powerful hope that with more work, he could have his old life back.
Then on February 4, 2003, Nathan broke his neck a second time. He’d contracted a severe case of pneumonia and was admitted to the hospital. While receiving x-rays there and still unconscious, Nate fell from the table, this time breaking his cervical vertebrae at the higher C6 level and instantly robbing him of all the movement he’d worked so hard to gain over the past year. The news was devastating.
And yet, to see Nathan today rolling casually around his home, to witness photos of his family adventures, or to spot him cheering from the sidelines of his children’s games, you’ll always see a smile on his face and a light in his eyes. There are able-bodied people less content than Nate. How has he found peace in paralysis? A lot of faith, bottomless hope, and in his own words:
You can’t do hard things alone. Everything we go through in life—someone else has been there. Jesus Christ has overcome it all. We are not alone. He knows our every worry and trial. He is truly our Prince of Peace. It is personal. Peace is actually powerful and strong. Peace through Jesus Christ to me means that everything is okay—not perfect, but it’s okay.”
#PrinceofPeace
God knows each of us. He knows what we struggle with. He loves us so He sent His son Jesus Christ to be our Savior, our #PrinceofPeace. If you are searching for peace in your life, try starting with the one person who offers it willingly.
Although things may not be perfect, you will find beyond a shadow of a doubt, that they will be okay.
You can learn more about the 8 principles of peace, what it means to be a Mormon like Nate and myself, and how you can draw closer to Jesus Christ at mormon.org.
While in the Ogden home, I asked asked each of the children one question, “How does your dad show faith and hope?” As Nathan listened to their answers quietly from his wheelchair, tears ran freely down his face.
“Growing up having a dad who was paralyzed…I grew up lifting my dad.”
“Us kids are used to getting dad into bed every night, lifting him in his truck…things that are simple for others. In all these years, I have never seen my dad be angry at his paralysis. He has never been angry at God or at his situation.”
“Whenever I’m ready to give up, dad’s there telling me to never give up.”
Living Unfrozen
Ever pressing forward, Nathan is now a motivational speaker. If you’d like to learn more about the Ogden family and their incredible stories, follow them on Facebook, check out Nathan’s website, or read the book Unfrozen (You can find it on Amazon or get a signed copy here). You’ll come away a more inspired person for it.
Nowadays, the Ogdens are busy planning their new epic adventure, a 1,000-mile family relay bike ride they’re calling: Coos Bay to L.A.
“Oh, are you guys avid bike riders?” I ask. They all bust up laughing. “No!”
It all goes with their family mantra of living unfrozen. “People tell you you can’t do something. Why not? We say, let’s do it!” says mom Heather.
For Nathan, living unfrozen has meant repelling from sheer mountain cliffs, swimming in triathlons, river rafting, and pushing himself to limits most of us are too afraid to try. Asked if all of these adventures are hard, Nathan replies,
“Yes, very hard. But everyone helps. They lift me up.
How do I accomplish these things? Family, friends, and the peace and strength the Savior brings. Whatever He went through was more difficult than it is for me. I can’t do it alone. No one can do it by themselves.”
Today Nathan Ogden still knows what it feels like to fly, only this time, his wings are the people closest to him. When the next hard thing comes along, Nathan is ready.
“Bring it on,” he says. “I can handle it.“
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Written by Nicolette McKinlay
Photos by Cristi Dame
Mormon.org sponsored this post.
Ron & Cheryl Fuller says
This family inspires us. They are so positive and always on the go!! Their faith and belief in doing the Lords will is unstoppable. They trully love one another and the Lord!
Kaye Hermann says
Hi Ron and Cheryl Fuller! This was inspiring to me too. We have a daughter who is a twin and 26 w/cerebral palsy. She is one of our five daughters. Do you remember us from Bend, Oregon? Rik and Kaye Hermann
Summer says
We love the Ogden family! They are such good people who really know what it means to have faith and rise above challenges. When we lived by them in Idaho, whenever I saw Heather or Nate, they were asking about ME! How was I feeling? Was my health improving? How did that new doctor work out? It was amazing how selfless they were, not only in their actions, but in their interactions. My challenges were nothing in comparison, and yet they were always looking outside their circumstances to help me and others. What amazing examples of courage and true Christianity. We are so lucky to know them!
Karen says
I have a question. My father in law is a quadriplegic from a motorcycle wreck 9 years ago. I’d love for him to read the book but he cannot read due to his condition. Is the book available in audio version?
Nathan Ogden says
Hi Karen,
Currently the book is not in an audible form. That is something that we have been looking into producing. I hope your father in law is doing well and thriving. Let me know if I can be of any assistance. We live our lives as creatively as possible even with my disability. I know others can as well! Nate
Sally King says
Hi Nathan! You and your family are so inspiring! I am excited to read your book and follow you on your blog. As an aside, I went to school with Ron and Cheryl and was even in their wedding! They have always been two of my very favorite people.
Love to all of you.
Tonya says
So inspiring! Thank you for sharing. Ogden family I think you’ve done more adventurous things than most people! Way to go!
Jaylene Wegener says
Thank you for your inspiring story! It truly teaches what faith and hope is and what it means to let go and give your trials and challenges to Christ’s Atonement! You have truly taught how to have the Atonement Enable us! You have touched my soul today and taught me through your example of Joy!
Thank you!!!
Lynn Collins says
We have a quadriplegic daughter. She was sick at six weeks of age. She has never walked or talked. She is now 42. We still take care of her and our children help lift her every day. It is a lot tougher than people think but is also a labor of love. It was nice to read your story and know there is someone else doing what we are doing. It is not easy and some days I feel completely defeated and alone. Thanks for sharing. It helps. me. I don’t know what else to say except we send our love and appreciation that you shared your story. We also have faith in the gospel of Jesus Christ and we could not do what we do every day without our faith.
Nicolette says
Lynn, this is beautiful. All of my love goes to you are your precious daughter. You said it best, it is harder than any of us can imagine, but a labor of love unlike any other. Thank you for sharing your very personal thoughts.
Nathan Ogden says
Lynn,
Thank you for your kind words. We honor you for your dedication and love for your daughter. Each day or even hour can be challenging. There are many days that are not your own, as you are in the throws of caregiving. I am proud of you and your family for battling together through the adversities that come with disabilities or disease. Know that you are not alone. We are all working through each day, the best we can. We would love to be a source of outlet or help in any way. What a beautiful blessing that you have been given to have one of Heavenly Father’s angels in your home!
With admiration and love,
Heather and Nathan Ogden