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Intimacy in long-term relationships is a lot like toast.

Growing up in a religious community that believes in abstinence before marriage, I was content with bread for a long time. Bread was safe, comfortable, no surprises. But the older I got, I learned through friends and Seventeen Magazine that bread could become toast. My mind was blown. And the way that magazines and movies talked about it, I knew that toast must be better than plain old bread.

And since my education on toast came mostly from two limited sources, when I got married at 23 and tried toast for the first time, I realized: it wasn’t as good as I thought it was going to be.

What’s the big deal with toast? I thought. Little did I know that there is a lot to learn about toast, and the more you learn, the more you enjoy it. In fact, it takes most couples years, even decades of making toast to get it just right.

3 Intimacy Secrets I Wish I’d Known Earlier

Secret #1: Buttered toast is better than dry

I think we can all agree that dry toast is pretty terrible. It makes eating toast difficult, and uncomfortable. The same goes for intimacy. A lubricant that both partners enjoy is important. The silkier the better. Going without is just a recipe for disaster.

Recommendation: this one checks all the boxes; it’s water-based so not greasy, made from natural ingredients so it won’t irritate, and silky, silky smooth. 

Secret #2: Toast is best with a topping

Plain toast gets boring; it’s way more enjoyable with toppings. You can try so many different things to keep toast exciting! There’s cinnamon sugar toast with whipped cream or avocado toast with a perfectly fried egg on top. These days toast comes in all kinds of varieties!

For women especially, intimacy is best enjoyed when they can earn the big prize too. But it’s harder for women than for men and so many women are scared/reluctant/embarrassed to try gadgets in the bedroom. Ladies, intimacy tech has come a long way! Don’t be afraid to try them! Many are super discreet and help give you just the push over the edge that you need to enjoy intimacy just as much as your partner.

Recommendations: The Womanizer Premium is a GAME-CHANGER. It’s discreet, classy and user-friendly. This one is great too!

Use code HDSTECH10 to get 10% off ANY device of your choice.

Secret #3: The quality of bread matters

I think we can all tell the difference between a hearty slice of homemade bread and weak-sauce slice of Wonder. One makes toast that you can sink your teeth into and the other comes up lacking.

One intimacy secret that few women know about is the power of a strong pelvic floor. For all the pain that Kegel exercises are, they really do improve intimate health. If you aren’t doing them, start and you’ll see the difference it makes in more enjoyable intimacy. 

Recommendation: These nifty gadgets can help. (They can also help you from peeing your pants when you laugh, jump, or run.)

If you’re looking for tasteful gadgets that can improve intimacy and make it more fun, CurrentBody is the place to find them. You won’t feel “gross” shopping there. These are the highest quality (believe me…Amazon knock-offs just don’t do the job.) CurrentBody also has the world’s best beauty tech like this botox alternative and at-home laser hair removal device. They’re also the only supplier on the planet that sells my favorite face-washing tool! (Again, Amazon knock-offs just don’t compare!)

With so many ways to make toast, don’t settle for plain every single time. Toast can be exciting and fun! And if after 17+ years of marriage your toast is still exciting, you know you’re doing something right.