Valentine’s Day is fast approaching! Do you have your Valentine’s gift ready?
I thought I did until I was ready to share with you what I had made. As I typed, the words on the page seemed oddly familiar. I realized that I had been giving my husband something similar for the past who knows how long. Case in point… the time I gave him a month’s worth of reasons why I loved him in this post here .
Or the time I made an “I love you Because” dry erase board like in this post here.
But is that what he really wants? Or is that what I want?
According to Dr. Gary Chapman in his book The 5 Love Languages, there are five currencies of love: Acts of Service, Words of Affirmation, Physical Touch, Quality Time, and Receiving Gifts. This year we re-took the Love Language quiz and I was reminded (once again) that according to this Love Language theory- My husband’s primary Love Language is Physical Touch. What does your partner really need from you? Have you stopped to ask them?
So, what I put in this jar has changed, both physically and metaphorically. I tailored my gift to meet his love language and came up with a jar for him to choose one slip of paper each day with something pertaining to his love language. Things such as cuddle sessions, back rubs, neck massages, and kissing, etc. I call mine our “Love Language Jar” with the language he can feel the most loved.
First you need to find out what their love language is by having them take this quiz here.
1. Find a small jar.
2.Cut strips of paper and write out things according to his love language.
3. Roll up strips and put in jar.
4.Decorate the Jar with fabric, ribbon, whatever you want.
Valentine’s Gift in their Love Language…done!
Ideas for tailoring it to their love language are:
Acts of Service: Wash their car, pack their lunch, pick up their dry cleaning, make their favorite diner, etc.
Words of Affirmation: 10 reasons you love them, things you are proud of them for, notes of appreciation, etc.
Quality Time: Taking a drive, planning date nights, going on a walk, taking a weekend retreat, etc.
Receiving Gifts: Giving them their favorite treat, piece of clothing they would like, something they enjoy doing, etc.
Physical Touch: Giving back rubs, cuddle session, personal pedicure, hugs and kisses, eh hem use your imagination here, etc.
I want to hear from you! What are your ideas of showing love in their love language?
Find Dr. Gary Chapman’s Book The 5 Love Languages here
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